Am I petty and unreasonable ?

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So I’m 6 weeks pregnant and naturally everything stresses me out about the baby and my whole mindset changed the moment I found out about the baby. But my bf seems to still have this selfish take on things and it pisses me off. It’s both of our first and I feel like I automatically went in mommy mode and he’s making me feel like he’s not mature enough and it worries me.

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I don't think we can really tell without actual examples of how he's being selfish.

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Honestly it didn't feel real to me at 6 weeks. And it didn't feel real for my boy friend until we found out the gender. I think it's different for men because they don't have to change anything and they don't get to feel what we feel. Like the kicks at first! I would just give him time to process everything

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Okay maybe he hasn’t woken up to the fact yet. But it is only 6 weeks. Some people don’t even know they’re pregnant at that time. There’s no bump, but of course you feel it more strongly than he would. Have a talk with him, and make sure you’re on the same page but don’t get angry because he seems aloof right now.

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At 6 weeks pregnant he hasnt even had time to fully process it. He doesnt have symptoms or have to change his day to day life at all so it probably doesnt feel real yet. If he barely acknowledges it after several months is when I would start to worry.

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I guess I would need examples to see what you mean by petty and unreasonable etc

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my son's 4 months old and my boyfriend is still very immature... we went without protection for 7 months before I fell pregannt... And was in the if it happens it happens... later to be told a months go in the beggining he wanted me to have an abortion... that he wasn't ready to be a father, and how he still wants to go out and have fun. He constantly prioritizes weed and alcohol over us.. making me dip into my savings( already saving for his college fund) because he can spend $400+ on that a month and falls shorts on rent.. most months he can't even do simple things like pick up after himself, constantly throwing out his garbage bugging him for weeks to do his own laundry... to place his shoes neatly by door and I am okay with doing all dishes but after dinner when I got my dishes done for the night, I tell him he must do his own dishes I  do not want to wake to dishes in the sink, which he in terms says I guess that means I can't eat and this is why I'm skinny. 😂 it's like any excuse to be lazy.  or how many times I have to bug for him to empty his lunch pail after work so I can clean the dishes only to wake up to a pile in the sink which pisses me right off. I do not regret my son, I do however regret who I had my son with, as he is still so immature, lazy, doesn't understand you can still smoke weed and drink but not 24/7... I swear I spend more of my day cleaning up after him then my son! and I've been bugging him since  I found out I was pregnant and our bad habits had to change and have a clean home etc... been bugging him to grow up a bit.! what i ask of him around the house is simple things youd  ask your toddler-10 year old to do. he is 24.-.-  sorry for the rant. telling you now don't expect some people to change.

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are they ever mature enough tho??? 
We have a lot of renos to finish on the house, some to do on the nursery before I can start it. I found my husband kept saying "we have lots of time", "we still have like 6 months to get stuff done"...  now I'm 28 weeks and he's freaking out lol, like at the er with a "heart attack" last week that was actually stress/anxiety. 
We as women has a instant instinct to prepare, men are dumb but hopefully he'll come around and everything will be fine.

Am I petty and unreasonable ?

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