Letter to all the parents on this site

If you are a parent.....PLEASE understand that mental/verbal and emotional abuse can really be so damaging to a child. It’s just as bad as physical abuse. And when you have a combination of all of those you will RUIN your child.

There is an effective way to raise a child up in a positive way but still discipline them. Abuse is so serious and can harm the child so much. A lot of my issues that I have are honestly from the abuse, scrutiny, and CONSTANT criticism that I received from my parents growing up. As well as the physical abuse.

I’m an adult now and it’s gotten somewhat better but I still face toxicity from my dad and it’s just awful. It’s so hard for me to even communicate how bad it was when I was younger and some things I forget or can’t remember. I’ve been so good at hiding it and suppressing it that no one really knows.

Please parents......love and uplift your child. Don’t raise your voice....they should feel a calm presence when you enter the room not feel anxious every time you are home. Be gentle, and don’t hit them even if they make you really angry.... if they do something you don’t like, express in a calm way as best you can. Don’t say they are a failure, or they’re going no where in life, or they will never get ahead because they aren’t smart.

And parents if you have a daughter.....listen to me. DO NOT MAKE NEGATIVE COMMENTS ABOUT HER BODY TO HER FACE. DONT NOT CALL HER THE ‘R’ WORD AND DONT EVER MAKE HER FEEL SHAME. Shame is a terrible terrible feeling that she will carry with her always. So just treat her like a princess and encourage her. You’ll be better for it.