Family problems

I’m extremely upset tonight and need to vent... Warning, it’ll be long.

Backstory:

I’m 25 years old and in an incredibly competitive nursing program. When I was about 5-7 my older brother, who is at least 9 years older than me, molested me. He also let a friend of his rape me. I told my parents and they just sent him to live with my grandparents for a short time and swept it under the bus. They’ve always treated him special because he wasn’t supposed to live long. He used to physically attack my family members and I used to be so afraid of him. He continues to threaten me to this day but I no longer play his game, I will send his ass to jail now that I’m older and know better.

A few years ago he started dating this trash girl that is younger than me. Well, she got pregnant by some kind of miracle and had a little girl. They abused the baby. He said the girlfriend shook the baby and would yell in her face, among other things. She said that he molested her. They both denied the claims later when asked. We know they would leave her in the car seat for over 8 hours at a time and the baby was highly delayed and never cried, she would silently scream. The girlfriend has also threatened me and tried to tarnish my name in the town I grew up in (and I worked in at this time, I was working in a government position). They ended up getting the baby taken away and my mom has adopted her.

To now:

The little girl is now 3 years old and my parents still let those pieces of shit around her, they even make excuses for them. My mom, little brother (adopted), little sister (the one mentioned), niece, and I are on vacation right now. During this vacation my sister has said that my mom isn’t her mom, she talked about being in her bio mom’s “belly” when my mom has never said such a thing, and she also keeps bringing up her bio moms sisters pregnancy and saying it’s a girl. When talking about the pregnancy she also gets on a tangent about boys being yucky and bad, which she says her bio mom told her. I’ve also had to get on to her because she tried to pull our shirts down, grab our boobs, and is CONSTANTLY looking down our shirts (she was NEVER breast fed). She said that her bio mom taught her to do it...

A thing about her bio mom and family... they like to have girls to use them as sexual toys, so this behavior is concerning to me.

My older brother has called us several times during the trip too, not to ask about the girl but to bitch about my dad working when he wants to go somewhere. My dad works 7 days a week in a factory, my brother is disabled and doesn’t work. My brother hasn’t asked about the girl once, the only time he acknowledged her was when she was desperately trying to get his attention and he only said hi to her. This breaks my heart because I feel that my parents are setting her up to get attached and she’s being hurt constantly by someone who has already hurt her. I’ve actually cried several times about it tonight.

Today I just found out that my dad has been letting my older brother drive his car. Since I’m in school I use my dads car to get around, I can’t afford my own right now and my husband used the only car we have. My dad also pays half my tuition. What upsets me about my older brother driving the car is that I paid for the gas that’s in there, I paid for the oil that’s almost due for a change, I pay for the upkeep, and I pay for the cleaning. I’m not working since I’m in school and my husband and I are beginning to run out of money, I’ve been trying to conserve in every way and can’t afford gas and an oil change currently. It also pisses me off that they cater to someone that literally scarred me and another little girl over 20 years apart. My dad even drives the fat cow my older brother is dating to work! She works 5 small town blocks from her house. When I lived in the town, I had to walk 2+ miles to my work and when I lived in the ghetto in the city I had to walk in the freezing snowy temps (about a mile) to get to work. I had to do it but that abusive bitch doesn’t?? My dad even feeds them!

I’ve told my dad tonight that I don’t want his car and he can give it to his son and new daughter. I don’t want to be in a car that had that trash in it and I don’t want a car that someone has used my resources with and I’ll have to pay for again due to someone driving it around like crazy. It kills me because I hate fighting with my dad but I can’t stand it anymore. They need to stop the craziness and catering to their son, he’s put above everyone else... I don’t know what to do anymore or if I’m overreacting... I just know it all makes me sick and so upset.