My friends husband has an uncomfortable obsession with me...

My very good friend of about 4 years is married with two young kids. I have a really good relationship with her entire family as they coincidentally live 3 houses down the street from me. About a year into the friendship I ran into her husband at a bar one night with one of his friends. I could tell he was quite drunk but as usual, when we saw each other it was all smiles “Heyyyyyy!!!!!” and a little sideways friendly hug.... but then he took both my hands and looked at his friend then looked back at me and said “she’s sexy af though isn’t she?”

So I quickly pull my hands back and pretty much run away!

I decided not to tell my friend about the run in because I didn’t think it was worth risking our friendship AND her entire family plus I knew he was drunk and probably wouldn’t even remember the next day. I just made it a point to not interact with him as much as I would’ve before. And just as I thought, he didn’t seem to remember and since then, he hasn’t said or done anything inappropriate.... not directly to me anyway...

BUT my friend is ALWAYS telling me how he talks and asks about me ALL THE TIME! If he passes my house and doesn’t see me car, he calls her and asks her where I am... if he sees another car in my driveway he asks her who is at my house... if he notices my car is dirty or has a flat he tells her to ask me if I want him to deal with it.... when he can’t reach her at work through out the day (she and I work together) he calls my phone looking for her and if I hand her the phone instead of answering myself, he asks her why I didn’t wanna answer.... When he’s about to cook dinner some evenings he asks her to find out what I cooked first so he can cook the same thing.... he tells her I’m his second wife and that if something was to happen to her he’s going to marry me... one night he saw me out talking to a male friend and went home venting to her.... he’s even shown her signs of jealousy when ever I call her to talk about my boyfriend.... .....he just says and does a world of creepy, inappropriate, obsessive things!! She thinks it’s funny and is always telling me how much her husband loves and is obsessed with me but I just find it VERY uncomfortable and strange!! And what I find even more strange is the SHE DOESN’T find it strange!!!

I know it’s not a fettish cuz she has said in conversation before that she only entertains it because she knows it’s all fun and games but if she ever dreams that he and I have something that she would kill us both...

I want to tell her how much I HATE this “obsession” thing he has because I know she will respect and maybe even appreciate the fact that I don’t like it... but I strongly feel it would make our friendship awkward because he’s such a big part of it.... what do you ladies think??