Not Attracted to My Husband Anymore

My husband and I have been together for 5 years, and married for 2. Ever since I have known my husband he has always been this self assured, know what he wants, travel and go out kind of guy ( which I love because I am an extrovert). I fell in love with his self assurance and confidence. We had a baby back in December ( his first, my second), and ever since then his whole personality has changed. He is now second guessing himself, he isn’t confident, and he never wants to go out and do anything. I have tried on multiple occasions for us to go out as a family to do something and he will always turn it down. I am a stay at home mom, so I feel like I am trapped in the house because he never wants to go anywhere. I don’t mind going places by myself with the kids, just wish he would want to join.

Another part of why I am finding myself not attracted to him is the way he treats my brother and sister-in-law. Since I am a stay at home mom I watch their kid as well. I don’t mind and love spending time with the kiddos. My husband on the other hand was upset because they didn’t talk to him about it. So he has since become very cold towards them, to the point where my sister in law has noticed. I am a huge family person and love doing everything with my family. I hate that he is acting this way and putting a strain on the relationship, and making it awkward when we are all together. I told him that they didn’t come talk to him as well because they don’t have a relationship with him. My husband decided very early that my brother wasn’t the kind of guy he would ever hang out with, so therefore never really took the time to get to know him. So over the years my husband has excused himself from hanging out with my family. Now he gets upset when he isn’t included in the conversation. I have tried to explain to him that he usually backs out of hanging out with them and therefore has not formed that relationship with them...he doesn’t see it. I finally had had enough and basically poured all of this out to him last night. Not sure where we are going to go from here, but I had to get it off my chest. Sorry for the long post!