Boyfriend is against using a vibrator on me

I was watching a Youtuber do a haul on sex toys the other day and I found myself interested in buying a vibrator after hearing her gush about how well some of the products she was using felt on her during sex/masturbation. I was hoping that maybe using a vibrator would help me orgasm since I’ve never been able to when having sex.

I brought up the idea of bringing sex toys into our sex life to my boyfriend and he instantly hit me with a no. I understand that my boyfriend isn’t going to wanna do some things but it hurt that he didn’t take my pleasure into consideration, he didn’t really think about it.

Over the past few days I’ve brought up other things we can do to help me but he continues to say no. Turns out, the reason he denies me so much is because he feels he isn’t enough and it makes him insecure. He says that we shouldn’t need toys or anything else.

My boyfriend is great in bed, I just need the extra push since he gets to orgasm but I don’t. Every time he gets to finish I’m just there, wanting more. I still want to get a vibrator to use it after sex but he’s against that too.

I just feel like my needs aren’t being met. I’m willing to dress up for him, tell him certain things I’m embarrassed to say even when I’m alone, and do whatever it takes for him to be pleased sexually but he can never do the same for me 😔

How do I convince my boyfriend to try new things with me? And should I buy the vibrator anyways? I’d like to try it, but would it be worth fighting over