Adoption Question?

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So my dad is a dr and he has spoken to a patient that wants to abort her baby because she can’t afford to keep it. My Dad asked her if she would consider adopting the baby out to me and my husband sense we can’t have kids. She’s undecided right now but my question is how would this process work? Would I have to pay her a bunch of money to adopt her baby like I would through an Agency or would I just pay for her medical expenses or would I just have to sign some paperwork to adopt the baby?

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I would consult a family law attorney in this case and tread carefully. I’m not sure (please don’t take this offensively) that your father approaching her is even legal within the scope of practice.  Consult a lawyer, ask about that, and then ask about how to proceed, because if she feels coerced in any manner that could spell trouble for you all later. If you are interested in adoption I would seek out an agency and avoid a patient of his at all costs.

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YES its A LOT to go through and it can be stressful i wish i could chat with u 1 on 1 to tell u more of this process because its a closed adoption abd you DO NOT NEED A AGENCY for this ONLY a lawyer to draw up the papers and finalize them. honestly the mother can get on medicaid/wic so there's no need for you to pay medical expenses. you can IF you want transport her to and from the doctor BUT PLEASE BE CAREFUL because I PROMISE YOU WILL BE HURT IF YOU GET ATTACHED AND SHE CHANGE HER MIND. if you want feel free to contact me via email mrsvaleriereedfrison@gmail.com and we can chat from there.

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i personally went through this and YOU need to set up something with this young lady and talk to her 1 on 1 NO SUGAR COATING because some people are out to scam you and then change there mind after the baby is born. once you and this ypung lady have talked about what she expects then you go from there. Contact a lawyer to draw up papers which can cost about $500+, but NOTJING takes effect UNTIL after the baby is born and even then the mother has 1-2 weeks to change her mind and get her baby back thats the stressful part. Yes agencies charge A LOT of money because they get a hug portion of it BUT if you keep a close relationship with the mom then you are ok. Another thing is do this girl know who the dad of the child is and is he around because IF he is then he will jave yhe FIRST option to adopt kust be careful

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Depends on what you negotiate.  Get a lawyer if she is interested in letting you adopt the baby. Usually you cover pregnancy costs and a bit of money to compensate the birth mother. You can probably talk to a lawyer who is very well versed in adoption and surrogacy to explain the fine points. But best of luck hun!

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I worked at an agency and it would cost around $20,000 but that was for medical expenses, and some money for clothing/housing/food for the birth mother. They didn’t get any money to keep for themselves and the agency was a non-profit. So either way you’ll be paying a significant amount. Most women who are going through with adoption can’t afford health insurance, maternity clothes and supplies, or food for adequate nutrition. 
At the very least you would need an agreement (legally) performed by the state with the intent to adopt, which would hold both parties accountable. My uncle and aunt adopted my cousin without the use of an agency but it was an inner-family adoption, and across multiple states, so I’m not too sure how it differed. Best of luck!

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