Is it a huge problem if a partner tells you to adjust your looks in a minor way?

Because...I don’t. You can love a person and tell them that they should adjust something (not that they’re obligated to listen to you). Part of caring for each other is making sure the other is in top form and appearance is a part of that. Yes, there are jerks who live to put others down, but that’s not the case always.

The reason I bring this up is I see this considered a huge deal all the time, especially in connection with body positivity and I don’t understand how a partner saying ‘hey you might want adjust X’ is awful or going against loving your body (in fact part of loving your body is taking care of yourself).