Is it just me?

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Hi guys, sorry for the long post... i am just wondering if anyone else is still worried about miscarriage or if i am just being crazy? I have experienced 2 losses.. one in a previous relationship 10 years ago and one this past January with my husband. my first loss happened around 6-7 weeks and the most recent happened at 8.5. i am currently 15+5 and i am so hesitant to get excited or start buying stuff cause I’m terrified to lose our little boy. I know nothing is a guarantee of course but I’m just wondering if anyone else is feeling like that or if anyone wants to give any positive words of encouragement that would be so appreciated. We had our NT scan at 12+6 and baby was measuring a whole week ahead and was moving around in there like crazy. And all of our genetic screening came back as very low risk for chromosomal abnormalities. I have a doppler and have been listening to his heartbeat once a day (just for a few seconds i stop as soon as i find it) because it gives me peace of mind but i would really like to relax enough to stop using the doppler. (Also my midwife knows i have one and encouraged me to use it to help decrease my anxiety.. she said it is perfectly safe)

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I had a miscarriage first, then a baby, and now I’m pregnant again (18 weeks) I STILL cannot relax until I have the baby! I listen to the heartbeat every so often, I’m always hesitant to put the baby news on Facebook no matter how far I am bc in the back of my mind something can always happen. Unfortunately I hear it relatively often people having super late miscarriages or stillborns. Even when the baby comes, then I worry about sids despite following all the “rules”. I am an anxious person as it is.

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I have no history of miscarriage - this is my first pregnancy, currently 17 weeks. Like you, every test for baby has come back normal and great. 
I am still very hesitant to do any huge exercise. I walk a lot every day, but I have stopped HIIT and lifting weights because I am paranoid I will do something to the baby and cause a miscarriage. Not sure when this paranoia will leave me, but this is what I have for now and I am just adjusting living with it. 
So- totally feel you, good luck 💜

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I’m in a similar boat. I’ve had 3 miscarriages between 5 and 12 weeks. I’m currently 16 weeks and still nervous. 
When I was pregnant the first time we’d bought a few things, the second time we didn’t because I was too worried of it happening again. It honestly didn’t change the level of grief we felt. 
So this time once we hit 12 weeks we started buying things, because if we’re lucky enough to have a healthy baby I’d hate to look back and feel like I missed out on enjoying my pregnancy.

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honestly if the baby was a week ahead, your way out if the risk zone. if your above 12w risk of miscarriage is very very low so don't worry your baby is more then fine and plans to stick around for a long time xD some days I worry but then I feel it moving and going crazy very light movement but I noticed it and I'm 17w3d. If your really worried about it, I'd honestly go find a hobby to keep your mind off of it or maybe you just need a get-a-way vacation to release any anxiety or worries you have.

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Currently crying because I’m soworroed about Losing this baby I’ve had one miscarriage and I’m 19w4d so I’m in the clear and I’m still stressed I feel her move and it makes me feel better but sometimes I go 4-5 hours with out feeling anything and immediately freak out I miscarried my first baby at 5 weeks and I’ve made it this far with his little sis/brother but I’m still stressed I’m currently going through some emotional stuff because my baby sister just left till after the baby is born for the guard amd I’m worried the emotional trauma from that is gonna cause a miscarriage so you are not alone it stresses me out every day

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Had a loss at 22 weeks.. i’m now 18 weeks & still nervous.. I’ve already announced though because I dont want to live in fear. But i definitely check the heartbeat like every day!

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I’ve had two miscarriages too both before 12 weeks. I’ll be 16 weeks tomorrow and still nervous and in disbelief that this baby will actually happen.

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With my son (our 3rd child) we tried for 13 cycles and had 4 miscarriages. I never stopped stressing. I think it’s just in us after we experience loss. I was high risk so I had ultrasounds all the time that somewhat put my mind at ease but the first night I finally relaxed was our first night at home. I kept thinking once I hit 13 weeks I’ll feel better. Once I start feeling kicks I’ll stop worrying. Once we get into the third trimester.

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