What do I do? — who will be in the room?

With my first son, I was 18. My mom let her mom in the room while I was being born so basically she just assumed id let her there as well (even though I just wanted it to be me and my fiancé)

Well it ended up being my mom, his mom & him. I hated it because of all the commotion and “encouraging” things they were saying in my ear the entire time I’d push. Also, The sleeping arrangements as I labored before pushing was stuffed & no one ever left & people were tired & of course tiredness came with attitudes & dumb arguments. It was irritating to say the least as I pushed out a 9.3 pound baby.

Well this time around, I’ve hired a birth photographer & a doula. And them two, with my fiancé & 2 moms is just overwhelming to me. Along with the place I go to, the rooms aren’t huge.

I really do just want it to be me and my fiancé this time. (Along with the photographer & doula of course)

I know for a fact my mom will take horrible offense to this. She will be upset & angry with me. I’m not so sure my MIL will care as much.

What do I do. Should I just suck it up and let them in the room again? Should I stick to the way I’m feeling? I’m just not sure and I don’t want to hurt anyone.