My mom and I are very close, she’s like my best friend. She would do anything for me to make me happy.

We had a lot of drama at our wedding between our mothers. It’s a long story. But his mom overstepped, ordered things, did things that I did not want at the wedding. I freaked, My mom apologized for how everything went Bc tensions were high, and it was a stressful time. She never did. But has been fake anytime my mom has reached out... (just finding that out now apparently)

So now I find out his mom is holding a grudge still, and is still mad Bc my mom freaked out Bc I DID NOT want this stupid ugly ass Pepsi cooler eye sort at my wedding. So Bc of me freaking out my mom was being protective and told them we didn’t want it. And that’s what started it all.

My mom has apologized.. in person! And has made an effort to text her and so on and so on to talk and be civil. Not once has his mom. But his mom was always fake and even accepted the apology, so it’s been a year...

Well now we’re having a baby shower, and honestly she makes me not want to have one.

Somehow the wedding came up when my husband dropped off shower invites. And apparently she’s still pissed Bc my mom yelled at her about a stupid ass cooler!!!!!!

Granite her and my husbands friends MOM we’re talking shit about my mom at the wedding and my moms friend overheard so said something also.

My moms friend I’ve known for 17 years.. I babysat her kids, my mom babysat her kids, to this day I still help out with her kids.

Anyways so yes my moms friend is invited Bc I’m close with them and her girls. I asked my husband if we could not invite his friends mom Bc she is what started the whole fight. I’m not having drama at the shower and having this lady give my mom dirty looks agains. He agrees...

So my grandma just passed away and we need to get our invites out originally I asked for a list from his side but I just gave her the invites to do her self Bc a lot going on now. So my husband dropped them off.

And mentions not to invite that lady. So she goes off about my mom at the wedding, and goes off saying that lady and those girls were talking shit about me. We should be inviting so and so.

Like with how much shit his mom talks it’s impossible to have a relationship with her it’s like she’s nice to me but than she says something to my husband about my mom and it’s like how do I put that aside. She’s holding a grudge from a year ago. Like she started the fight by overstepping doing things I didn’t want.

I’ve talked to my mom about this and she’s like i am sorry things didn’t go as planned and I can’t do the drama anymore ( my mom has alot going on) it’s the past, we got to let it go. I’ve also asked my mom to tell our friend to let go anything that has happened st the wedding and to start over at the shower, she agreed and just said I didn’t like them talking bad about you but it is the past.

I told my husband if she talks shit to her friends that she invited I am done. I will walk out at my shower. Bc I know if anyone on my side hears that they won’t stand for it. Idk what to do anymore Bc we’ve talked about the wedding I thought things were let go and done! But she just tells me what I wanna hear and than my husband something else. Like real side of her comes out to my husband but not me.

His mom said well let’s just do two showers 🙄 like grow up, I’m not doing two showers Bc she refuses to put the past in the past and honestly I’m not close with her and can’t build a relationship when she does things like this. It just pushes me away, like so what for the rest of my sons life I’m gonna have to throw two parties Bc his mom doesnt like my mom..

Update: thanks for the advice ladies but no I will not do two showers, so when my son is born, I’m gonna have to forever do two birthdays...my mom has put the past in past so why can’t she? And yes when I talk to her she’s fake, like I said my husband is the only one she is honest with. Idk if she doesn’t realize he tells me everything or what. And he’s gotten into really bad fights with her (punching holes in walls) Bc of how immature and stubborn she can be. She knows how to get under his skin. I went on Facebook and she posted how no one notices the good I do I’m just alway awful, forever the black sheep... my husband calmly talked to her yesterday that she can’t be doing this anymore it’s our son she needs to let it go. Like I said I can talk to her but she’s fake she’ll be like oh no no there’s no problems your mom and I are good. 🙄 so what do I say to that when she doesn’t even own up to what she’s doing