Ok. So I’m gonna try to tell this story the best way that I can. I’m gonna call the boy “CJ”. I’m 18, he’s 23 for reference. We used to have a friends with benefits kind of thing going on so he had my address already. That’s kind of important.

So last month, one night around maybe 11, CJ texted me asking if I could come out and see him. I said no because it was late and it was during the time where finals were going so my parents wouldn’t let me out. So he asked if we could meet up the next day and asked me what time I got out of school. I said I got out at 11 and CJ said he got off work at 9. He wanted to come after I got out. I said fine even though I really didn’t want to.

After school was out the next day, I didn’t go straight home; instead I went to the mall because I needed to get something. CJ texted me right at 11 and said he was leaving soon and he’d be at my house in 20 minutes. I said I wasn’t home and he said I know you’re not home but by the time hed gotten to my house I would be there. I said I would just let him know when I was ready for him to come.

At noon, CJ called me saying he had dropped his sister off at their dentist which was 10 minutes from my house, so he said he could just come then because he was close. I really didn’t want to see him so I said lets do this another day and lied and said that I had a doctors appointment at 12:30 and I had to meet my mom there. He said he was already on his way and he was less than 5 minutes away. And then he got really angry saying things like “you said we could do this today at 11 which worked perfectly for me because I’m doing things later. And now you’re changing up on me, you can’t do that. You didn’t take into consideration that I have plans later so we have to do this now. I’ll be quick.” I said well let’s just do this another day and I apologized and said I had to go. He said I’m right around the corner just hold on. I kept telling him to just leave and I kept apologizing. He said he was here now so let’s go.

CJ pulled into my driveway and when he got to my front door, I didn’t let him in at first. I kept saying I had to leave. Eventually I opened it because he “couldn’t hear what I saying.” He comes in my house and sees the door to the den and goes inside and takes me in there with him. I kept saying wait, let’s do this another day, I’m serious. He said call your mom and say you’ll be late. I actually called my friend, who didn’t answer, because the part where I had to meet my mom at the doctor was a lie. When I put my phone down and said she didn’t answer he said, let’s just go now, I’m already here, I won’t even be that long. I said no, let’s wait, can you please leave and he still unbuttoned my pants, pushed me so i was leaning over the chair and.... yeah.

After that, he left and I started crying. I felt like I couldn’t blame him for that because I did let him in my house and I said we could meet up but I changed my mind. My friend says as soon as I said “wait” and “no” he should’ve respected that.

I blocked CJ’s number and took him off my snapchat so I made sure there was no way for him to contact me. He found my Instagram yesterday and reached out to me. I said I blocked him for a reason and then told him how I felt about the situation. He apologized and said he’s never acted that way before and wants to be friends. I didn’t respond to that.

Him texting me triggered me, not in a joking “lol triggered” way. I do have depression, so that brought up all kinds of emotions. I want to tell my mother, but she doesn’t know I’m sexually active. And I don’t even know if this would be classified as assault because I led him to believe we could meet up and I let him in my house. But I said no. Any advice? Should I tell her? Is it even assault and is there even anything to tell? It wasn’t violent, but I did say no.