still keeping ex pics and said shes best?

my husbands ex wife was his middle to high school sweetheart. they were together for 9yrs until she cheated and left him while he was away in the army, being on active duty. but he cheated on her too while he was stationed in s. korea. 2yrs later, he met me, and were now married for 5yrs. anyways, he was drinking one time, and talked about her to me. he even compared me to her that shes best. he said she has a special place in his heart cause they were together for 9yrs. she was his savior and his relief when in stress when he was lil and got kicked out a lot by his parents. she means a lot to him, while i mean nothing. the next day, apologizing, and telling me to not listen to his drunk wrds cause theyre all bs. he claims he doesnt miss her anymore, but he still keeps their photos together, even her pictures alone. yet, he deleted all my pics w my guy friends, deleted my selfies i sent to him, torn all our pics, and "accidently" lost or threw away all our pics in an sd card .. they dont have any kids together, but we both do. our kids will be growing up seeing no pica of their parents together, but w their dad and another woman. he doesnt want to take new pics w me.