Am I wrong?

So today was my OB app, I’m 18w and 2 days so we were going to find out the gender of our baby.

My app was at 11:30. I had to work a couple hours, 6am to 11am. I came back home to change and my fiancé was still asleep.

I woke him up and asked if he was going to come or not, he’s known about his app for at least two weeks and I even reminded him last night, his response was “you didn’t wake me up.”

To which I replied well I am now, it’s not responsibility to make sure you’re awake when you’ve known about this for a while now. I told him I was leaving because I didn’t want to be late and he could meet me there.

After I left I got the text about how I’m so petty, I didn’t wake him up on purpose, how could I do this to him thing. The doctor is literally 10 mins away and he could’ve made it with plenty of time. I was angry and told him it wouldn’t make a difference, then I immediately said I was sorry and told him to come. No response, and I asked him if he made his choice and wasn’t coming and the text I got back was “made my choice? Fuck you.”

He never showed up. I was so upset my asked my doctor not to do an Ultrasound or tell me anything.

I got home around 1ish and it’s almost midnight and he hasn’t been home since. I text him and asked where he was because I’m always the one to tell him where I’m going, even if I’m upset. Well, he’s at a coworkers families party. Which makes no sense to me. He’s only been at this job for about a month, I get making friends, but being gone all day for a “coworkers family party”, seems a bit off to me.

I struggle a lot with depression and self harm, and his reaction is to deal with it on my own lately. I just feel so lost and I can’t imagine continuing like this...

Do you think I’m in the wrong for the way I did things?