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Seriously I have three kids. My SO and I have discussedabout no more babies. However he won't get a vasectomy.He knows its a half a day procedure he doesnt care. He only issue is that he doesnt want a scapel near his balls. Hes had a scapel kn his ass from a boil and i garentee that hurts more than a vasectomy. He thinks i either need to be on bc or get my tubes tied. WTF should I have to go through all this pain of giving birth and surgey or putting medication in me that could(rarely but still happens) give me a blood clot or other mmedical issues? Like why not just man up. Idk why this pisses me off so much. Like he cant just do this one thing. 
p.s he had made it very clear he does not want more kids.....at all. Even said if I ended up pregnant we could just get an abortion🤔 again something my body has to go through. put me through all this b.s cause your a pansy 😡 I dont believe in abortions but i believe in pro choice. Abortion is just not in me.

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I understand your frustration but in the end it’s his body and his decision.

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So then use condoms. Unless you've had a vasectomy yourself you can't guarantee anything pain wise. But condoms is a good compromise.

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If he doesn’t want to do it, then that’s that. You can’t force him to get one, it’s his body and he’s made it clear that he doesn’t want it done. Doesn’t matter how many kids you’ve had or what you’ve done. It’s not your decision to make. If you don’t want more kids, then use condoms or get on bc. If you don’t want to do that, then looks like you’re out of options. I think it’s petty and childish to throw a fit over him not wanting a procedure done. Doesn’t matter how small, it’s still a procedure.

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my coworker said that she had 2 babies cut out from her. her husband can get a vasectomy. i think that if a guy can ask a woman to get her tubes tied, he should be able to handle a vasectomy.

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Honestly. If neither or you want children again you should both take measures. Vasectomies can reverse, you can get pregnant on birth control, etc.  Its best to always use 2 forms of protection as it is. Maybe you should explain that to him and he can get a vasectomy while you get your tubes tied. Or he can use condoms while you go on birth control. Or a mixture of whatever works for you both. But, you cant force someone to have surgery, just like he couldn't force you to have an abortion if you did get pregnant again.

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It’s his choice, and you shouldn’t be pressuring him to do it. There are other methods of birth control available.

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Why don't you meet in the middle and use condoms?

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Okay, then use protection? Take birth control? IF YOU DO NOT WANT MORE CHILDREN THEN IT IS YOUR RESPONSIBILITY TO MAKE SURE YOU DO NOT HAVE MORE CHILDREN!!!!!!!! If you don’t want to take the pill then get the shot. Again you’re the one that can bear children. Ultimately it’s up to you on the decision not to have children and protect against it. Also, it’s his body as well. If he doesn’t want to do something then he doesn’t have to.

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You can get your tubes tied. It's a very quick surgery. You can check in, early in the morning and be home by noon.

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On one hand I can’t force him or get mad at him for doing a procedure. But on the other hand, ur right u have gone through a shit ton of stuff with three births already. 
I’d say that if he doesn’t wanna do it then you’ll stop having sex with him (I’m sure he will eventually give in)

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