Anal sex without permission?

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Last night my boyfriend and I were together and started to have sex. We made out, he ate me out and fingered before we started to fuck. We switched positions so we were both standing, I was bent over, and he was going to fuck me from behind. But to my surprise he tried to put himself in my butt. I was shocked and in pain and all I could muster out was “no” and “wrong”. He said “what?” but I didn’t know what to say at this point so I just let it happen. He didn’t switch positions after that and he came this way. It hurt quite a bit, and offered me no pleasure whatsoever. I feel very shaken about the whole situation. What do I do?

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That’s not ok. You didn’t consent to that.

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You need to talk with him. Tell him you said no, tell him he hurt you and you didn’t want him to do that to you. 
Trust with intimacy is a big thing in a relationship and he has broken that. He needs to know what he did was wrong. If you stay with him you don’t want him trying anything again without first discussing it with you or at least you giving the ok in the situation. 
He can’t think his pleasure comes before your comfort. Your body, your say. Make that very clear to him now before going any further.

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I'm not sure why you didn't say "stop" after he said "what"? Now, after the fact, you tell him that it hurt and you didn't like it and not to put his penis in your butt anymore

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This has happened to me with my boyfriend and and we talked about it and how I didn’t like it, I asked him to stop several time and he continued. I told him that it was wrong and explained it and he ended up apologizing to me and he felt terrible for it and he actually almost cried bc he felt bad for making me feel vulnerable and explained to me that at the moment he didn’t understand and now we have a promise to talk to each other more and explain what is okay what isn’t

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that's not okay. my ex did the same to me. except I was saying no stop the whole time but I was pinned btwn him and the floor with his feet on top of mine so I couldn't move. leave, now. if it happened once it'll happen again.

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Ok, I'm hung up on how he said "what." Was it questioning as in what did you say? Or was it more like what's your problem? If it was the first, you both are guilty of not communicating. He didn't ask before going for anal, and you didn't let him know he was hurting you. If you still have feelings for him, you need to talk now and let him know if he ever thinks it's ok to try inflicting pain on your body again, it will be the last time he ever sees you (assault charges and restraining orders may happen.)  If it was the latter "what," tell him not to try to contact you again and block him on everything. He's a total creep and you don't need that shit in your life.

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I mean I’m not sure? Did you consent for the other stuff?

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