I’ve been with my fiancé for 5yr. He was my first sexual partner. I’ve gotten out of the mood for the past year for illness reasons, but I’m feeling better now so we tried again. But... we don’t know how to get passionate enough.

One thing I’ve realized is that he isn’t very seductive making hard to get in the mood. His self confidence about this is stuff is shot. Honestly I love that confident dominant personality (kinda like a bad boy) but it’s very hard to describe. I know I need to communicate with him but how do I teach behavior? And how do I it without hurting him? He’s one of those guys who takes everything to heart even if I assure him that it’s not personal