I dont want to talk to him

I could really benefit from some insight right now.

For the past few years I haven't really wanted to spend time with my dad. He keeps calling me and it is extremely annoying.

I feel forced. I am an adult btw my 32nd bday is tomorrow and honestly I cannot recall ever having a birthday party when I was a child. My mother did tell me a few years ago that he asked her husband to adopt me and my sister which was actually really cruel of my mom to do because I was starting to have a relationship with him at the time. I feel like the only thing he ever talks to me about is church and for some people that can understand I love God and I know God loves me, I just don't appreciate him always preaching at me. I did tell him that I feel like he is trying to micromanage my relationship with God. There seems to be this cycle of guilt and I just don't want to be a part of it anymore.

He keeps calling me and now its making me feel worse cause I do not want to talk to him and I feel obligated if that even makes sense.

The last time he did this was during the holidays, kept calling and calling and what happened was when I did actually speak to him I broke up crying because he was pushing my buttons and I told him why I didnt want to talk and that I've been busy with work and my own personal life -trying to get things in order. And he made me feel like I couldnt talk to him about how I was feeling. He actually hung up on me.

I want to enjoy my birthday and not have to deal with any drama. I believe that I deserve to have good experiences.

What would you do? or can anyone relate?

I had a really awful relationship with my moms husband so I guess I just feel like the adult /parental figures in my life did not give me a good example of my worth and as an adult it has caused problems for me.

I am working on healing and forgiving but it really bothers me that he keeps calling me days and days and I need my space

Advice?