Would you stay with your husband after an affair?

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It depends. If it’s a one time thing id try my hardest. but not unrepentant cheating. 
I feel like we are all sinful beings and capable of falling into Satan’s traps and snares. God has shown me so much grace and so I’d try my hardest to show grace to my husband, but I’m not going to be a doormat in the name of grace. God calls us to be meek not weak.

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My husband had 3 affairs last year by soliciting sex workers and I got pregnant days after his last encounter unbeknown to me. My first instinct was to run for the hills. 
We’ve been together for over 10yrs and it was highly out of character for him to do this. I’m expecting our 4th child in the next 3 weeks and some days knowing he did what he did still haunts me BUT GOD reminds me that my husband is not my enemy- the devil is. 
Every time I get close to God bad things start happening, I myself have backslid and cheated on my husband twice unbeknownst to him. This time I’ve gotten closer to God than ever so the devil couldn’t tempt me so he attacked the thing closest to me- my husband. 
Yes the devil tempted my husband but at the end of the day my husband made the choice to cheat- he’s guilty and God will punish him for his transgressions just as I will be punished for mine. I’m not going to hurt my kids and my family over pride because that’s really what it is. “Oh you cheated on ME?” He’s human, I’m human, I’m hurt, I’m angry but if I look deep down at why it bothers me- it’s a pride issue. 
I’ve always told him: whatever you do or don’t do- I don’t want to know. It’s between you and God. If you can live with yourself and keep me generally happy then 🤷🏻‍♀️. 
I don’t snoop, I’m not jealous, I don’t have trust issues, I’m confident in God and my identity and self worth is found in him. 
When I discovered the affairs, I only discovered 1 and he confessed about the other 2 later. So yeah major ego beating. I felt like I wasn’t good enough, I felt betrayed, I felt disgusted but at the end of the day I sort of felt relieved to know my husband was human. Because I felt like scum for previously failing and had him up on a pedestal trying to make up for things and going over and above to make up for it even when he didn’t know- which was a bigger slap in the face. Like I was doing all this extra stuff to be the best wife I could be and you cheated on my efforts?!?!?!
To recover from this we have opened the lines of communication and have shared without holding back. We are both going through the “Celebrate Recovery” 12 step program for healing hurts, habits & hangups. We have spiritual sponsors and accountability groups. We celebrate and get “sobriety chips” for every month we go free of giving into temptation. And although it’s only been 5months since I learned about it, I can honestly say that right now my marriage is the strongest it’s ever been and I’m very glad I didn’t run for the hills. The enemy comes to steal kill and destroy. He tried to steal my peace, kill my marriage and destroy my family but we are still here and getting stronger every day so God wins.

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I’m really not sure. I wouldn’t divorce, but I would most likely separate for as long as it took us to recover.

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I chose yes, but it would depend. It would take a lot of work.

Would you stay with your husband after an affair?

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