Let me start by saying I love my husband. I’m so thankful for his work ethic at his job. He’s one of the best in his industry and works hard to provide us an extremely comfortable life.

I’m a teacher, most days I work a minimum of 14 hours. My husband works about 7-8. I make $50k a year, my husband makes $200k a year plus bonuses of $60k a year. I get 10 paid days off a year, he has unlimited vacation/personal time.

When I get off work and on weekends- I’m still the only person who cooks and cleans. He doesn’t even throw his own trash away or take his dishes to the sink. I literally can’t even get him to put his clothes in a hamper. I don’t like to “bitch” because I know his job takes a lot of his mental focus but dude. I just feel like it’s LAZINESS to not pick up after yourself.

On my unpaid time off (summer, spring break and holidays—- yes, they’re UNPAID), I’m fully expected to get up when he does and start my day, which consists of preparing 3 full course meals, plus snacks, taking him drinks, cleaning house, dealing with a the dogs and running errands. He works from home so when he sees me sitting or doing nothing, he acts visibly annoyed because he’s having to work.

My day does not end when his does. I continue into the night as I cook and clean up and do anything and everything he needs because he’s tired from work. When I admit that I too am tired, he turns it into a competition: “_____, you didn’t work all day like I did” “______, you don’t understand what it’s like to have a day like I did today”. I literally can’t even get him to open the back door and let our dogs out.

I’m tired of being a full time teacher to 135 middle schoolers and being a full time house wife. I feel like a fucking slave (okay- that’s dramatic and maybe a bit disrespectful to actual slaves) during my BREAKS. I literally get NO BREAKS. I’m just done feeling used and unappreciated. Yes he makes way more money than I could ever dream of making, but that doesn’t mean I don’t deserve some type of “help”.

I love him and appreciate him for what he provides but I honestly question if he even realizes the work I put in to keep things running so smoothly.

Thank god we don’t have kids yet. I truly think I’d break.