how much help does your babys father give you?

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I'm not talking monetary...actual physical help? does he do laundry or dishes or bath time or make dinner?
been a little down o feel like I'm alone in this. yes he works alot so do i so that's no excuse i work and take care of baby and the house. i feel like we have no adult conversation anymore. he says the baby wantsnothing to do with him shes a mamas girl...yeah because i do everything with her. just feeling bummed out and lonely and he doesn't get it. can't even take a shower without her pounding at the door so my response is play with her foot two minutes so i can shower...ughhh😵😵😵😑😪😪😪😭😢

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I'm on maternity leave right now. Currently sitting on the porch while he deals with the 2yo and 1 month old. He doesn't "help," he parents.

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I'm just starting my 18 month maternity leave. In the past we both worked full time and he did his fair share around the house. I said to him the other night that I don't mind doing most of the cooking/cleaning while I'm off but I do expect him to help out a bit and I definitely expect him clean up after himself... I'm not his mom and he's a grown man.
I also expect him to be a 50/50 parent on evenings and weekends. I'm not a sahm 24/7 while he works 9-5 but I'm not worried about his help parenting.

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My SO never did anything. Just work, come home, eat then watch tv or sleep. The first 4-5 months, is when I let it slide. I did talk to him but he didn’t ‘Care’ kinda. 
So when baby was like 7-8 I talked to him seriously and told him I’m done, that if he didn’t help with some stuff then I would just leave 🤷🏻‍♀️ I know it’s harsh to say that but it worked for me 🤷🏻‍♀️ now he is changing diapers (because I’m in school half the day so he has no choice) and he’s washing dishes before I get home. To help me have none before making him lunch for work. (He works nights.)

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it's never been even close to 50/50 here. in her whole 13 month life he woke up with her ONCE on my first mothers day. I'm not exaggerating. i feel so defeated. and i wish we could communicate i tried today but he turns so cocky and rude i get no where.😑 you ladies are lucky and should appreciate your men as im sure you do.

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My husband works a lot too. He works 7:30-5 mind through sat and then Wednesday & Thursday he works a side job from 5:30-9:30. By we work it out so that he spends time with our son. When he gets home he has “baby duty from 6- midnight. We spend time together too as a family and just us after baby goes to bed. We each have nights we do bedtime routine for our son so it’s not always one of us doing it. On wed and thurs we don’t see each other much unfortunately. We had to sit down and figure it out but we did. My husband wanted time with both of us and so do I. Maybe try to sit down and talk it out? Communication is key :)

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I would say my relationship is 50/50 in general. But truthfully, I’m a stay at home mom and my husband works so, I’m obviously primary care giver then. However, he works from home Fridays and is home all weekend and those 3 days he does WAY more for the kids than me. Also, evenings he’s basically on duty from the moment he gets home until bed and HE wakes up with the baby at night! 
As far as other stuff. I do the majority of cleaning because I’m anal about it. But he does all the cooking. We share laundry. 
If anything I feel like my husband does more sometimes.

how much help does your babys father give you?

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