So Upset- he’s not ready. Anyone else?

Question

So, don’t judge. I don’t need mean opinions, just support. TIA. 
So, I have Incompetent cervix... i delivered prematurely at 23w2d to a beautiful baby boy, he passed away a day shy of 2 weeks in the NICU on May 16th,2018. I’ve been going round and round with doctors but we came up with a game plan, for my next pregnancy how to try and handle it as I have to have surgery and etc. (long story) but I’ll be getting a TAC. But anyways, my point is- he gave me the OK to start trying again when we’re ready. And I am ready. But my SO is not. I’ll be ovulating according to my app and I just got off a period yesterday, so I was kinda excited to possibly start trying next week even tho I am not in high hopes getting pregnant so soon. But he doesn’t wanna try. I know I can’t be upset with him, I KNOW I can’t be mad with him. But I just feel so blank. So empty. Is this normal?? Please tell me someone else has been through this. I feel so unsupported and discouraged. I miss my son. I miss my pregnant belly as my original due date is next month. Mt birthday is Saturday. Nothing just seems to help and I feel so down. 😓

Answer

Maybe he is still grieving the loss? Maybe he isn’t ready to try again and still needs some time to go through the grieving process?
Just talk to him and tell him how you feel and see what is causing him to want to wait.

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I’ve been there. For about 2 years I was so ready to try for a baby but my husband didn’t feel it was the right time, then when he was ready he got an 8 month deployment dropped on him so he wanted to wait until after the deployment to try. In the middle he became unsure and I was honestly heartbroken, I cried on and off for a few days because I just wanted to start our family. Once he got home and we talked about it he realized he was ready and we’re at an amazing point in life for a child

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I’m sorry for your loss. It is normal for you to be upset if you feel like you’re ready to try. But after going through such a traumatic experience, it’s not surprising that your partner needs a bit more time. I would just take the time to relax and not focus on TTC, as that can be a stressful process. Hopefully when he’s ready you’ll be able to try again and have a successful pregnancy. Good luck with everything.

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I feel like a bad person because of being upset. Last night was just a very bad night for me, as we talked and I think he is scared. He almost lost me during delivery, and I was hospitalized multiple times, so I can see his concern. I think I just want what I’m supposed to have so much, it’s blinding me of any feelings. Thank you all for helping me open my eyes in an outside point of view. It is helping.

So Upset- he’s not ready. Anyone else?

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