Usually, I’m the type of girl where if a guy stops talking (texting/snap chatting) to me as much as he used to, I get the hint that he’s not into it anymore and am completely fine with it.

But I’ve been seeing this guy for the past few months and he hasn’t been talking (texting/snap chatting) to me as much as before. Now would be where I’d take the hint that he isn’t into it anymore and move on. But this time is different and I just can’t take the hint that easily!

He recently lost his job and when he knew he was about to lose it, he stopped talking to me. then later that day told me he didn’t mean to ignore me, it’s just been a rough time. And then we got together a few days after that.

Right now he’s not talking as much again. Part of me says it’s because he’s not into me anymore, but the other part of me says it’s because of him losing his job and he’s just going through a rough time. But that’s just the girl inside me wanting to justify his silence and ignore the reason that he’s probably not into me anymore.

I kind of want to tell him something like, “if you’re not into me anymore, it’s okay. Just let me know so I know!” But how selfish would that look if he really wasn’t talking as much because he’s just been going through some stuff. And how needy would that look?! That’d probably be a turn off. And maybe I’d be annoying for saying something else to him when he’s the one who stopped talking.

I think it’s bothering me this time compared to other people because I’m actually starting to develop some feelings. But last time we were together he opened up and told me a secret he probably doesn’t tell many people. So why would he do that if he was losing interest? I don’t know.

I’m mainly just venting. I know I should probably just leave it alone and see if he ends up saying something to me in a few days. I don’t want to look needy or selfish. Although, some advice would help because I’m dying to see him.