Do you judge single moms of multiple kids by different men? (Read description)

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I’m pregnant with my 4th all by different men unfortunately and none of the fathers help with their kids. My family keeps telling me I’m stupid and should’ve learned after the first time but I feel like all of my kids are a blessing.

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I wouldn’t say judge but I definitely think you should reevaluate your taste in men. It’s your life though. You’re the one that has to raise those babies not your family.

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I would not call you stupid, but it does seem like you are not taking enough time and effort to make sure the relationship is solid and long-lasting before you allow yourself to get pregnant.

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I don't judge, but I think (if it were me), it would have a negative affect on my children. No father in the picture, monetarily it's got to be hard on you. I would feel like they were missing out, no matter how much I loved them. Again, I don't know your situation, but that would be how I'd feel. The majority of people will judge the shit out of you, because they don't have anything better to do.

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I don’t think I would judge necessarily but I would feel bad for the children because unless you’re an exception, the instability of multiple men around children isn’t ideal. BUT it’s your life and if you don’t think it affects your children then you can decide what to do.

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Why would you ask this question in the first place? Who cares what other people think of you. As long as you can provide and love your four children that’s all that matters. You shouldn’t be asking for others people’s approval.

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I don't judge because I don't know their situation and it's not my place.

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How many men there are doesn’t in anyway diminish how good of a mother you are to those kids. Don’t ever let anyone judge you for your life choices that don’t even effect them in any damn way. People always like judging other people’s life, to redirect their own shitty life on someone else.

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My 2 half siblings and myself all have different fathers and the same mother who didn't get any help from any of our fathers. Now, as I'm a mother I will have 2 children both with different fathers. I used to be a single mother with my first, now with my second I'm proud to say he/she will have a proud daddy to share the world with, and he's got more than enough love to share that with my son even though there is no blood relation between the 2 of them. 
As for other mothers who have children with multiple men, regardless of being single or not keep doing what your doing no matter what anyone says as long as you are giving it your all to care for them and love them with all of your heart.

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My brother and me have different dads. I am a one night stand baby and honestly I couldn’t care less what people think about me and my brother having different dads. My Grandad filled the father role and I feel that’s all that’s needed. People ask me how I feel about not knowing my dad or how me and my brother have different dads and I just tell it never crosses my mind that we have different dads because at the end of the day that’s my brother and my mums family is my family. I wouldn’t worry about having different fathers because at the end of the day your children are your children. It takes involvement to be a father. I feel I got the love and support from my mother more than I could any man. So to be honest with you I don’t think for a minute you should be ashamed of your life. You are an image of strength. To look after 4 children by yourself is true strength. Be proud of yourself!

Do you judge single moms of multiple kids by different men? (Read description)

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