I need you guys opinions on this matter because I have not been sleeping for the past 3 days.

My husband and I are expecting our first baby ! I am 23 weeks now.

We announced to our parents 2 months ago.

Just for a general view on this, my mother in law is extremely difficult and causes a lot of problems.

But because she says the only thing that is important in her life is her 2 kids, I thought she would be over the moon to be a grandma. (she asked for it for a long time).

Anyway, since we announced it, she did not once called or wrote about my pregnancy or the baby.

She is completely uninterested and could not care less.

My parents are calling us a lot more than usual to ask news and going baby shopping, and asking about the name, the pregnancy, the feelings of my husband. They are very very happy.

So they had this idea of creating with us a birth list to help our family and friends to know what we need.

It took us 3 days to create it and my mom wanted to spread it to every body on both sides. Because my MIL is very difficult, I knew she would have a problem with that so my husband gave her the list and the people to send it to.

2 weeks later, she did not send it to anybody (she does not work and she has a lot of free time) and actually transfered money to us from what she wanted from the list and marked everywhere "offered by ...". and deleted the items

My husband called her and said it is very nice but it was for sending the list that we needed her and if she wanted to give us money we would let our friends and family pick from the list and use the money for the things we did not get.

She started yelling and saying she will offer whatever she wants (she did not even know about the list before my parents made it) and if we take her name down the items for everyone to see, she will take her money back.

Am I wrong to think she only thinks about herself and not what we truly need and that her behavior is just bad?

thank you !!!!