Am i wrong?

I can only take my in laws in small visits. Mostly because they are needy, annoying and rude. They want me to tell them every detail on my pregnancy and share every ultra (which i don’t want to share and shouldn’t have to) they let my 10 year old brother in law act like a total brat, I’ve literally never met any other 10 year old like him. Besides all that, my father in law always makes me feel stupid and belittles me when ever i speak, literally every time. So when we hung out with them the other day i started to get “snippy” to them. Why be nice to people who are always rude to you? No one in my husbands family has ever made me feel welcomed. He doesn’t see that, but he’s the kind of guy who sees the best in everyone. When we left hanging out with them my husband told me “you were Lima snippy today” after i explained to him why (even though I’ve told him how i feel multiple times) he told me that his dad is always just joking. But I’m the only one he acts that way with. He doesn’t talk to anyone else that way. I was mad my husband didn’t take my feelings into consideration. Should i have just let his family talk to me like that? I didn’t get to mean, anytime he made me feel stupid i just said something back to defend myself. It makes me not want to spend any time with them.