my best friend and i have been in a rough patch lately, and i could tell that some of it was my fault, so i wanted to talk to her and straighten things out. but every time i would try and get together, she would claim she was busy. i hadn’t seen her in weeks and this morning she sends me this huge list of all my flaws and tells me to shape up. she kept talking about how much i make her cry and not want to eat, which, this sounds horrible but the way that she said it is super manipulative and abusive. i apologized (and i believe she has some apologizing to do herself) and told her that i was trying to fix it and that i had been trying to talk to her but she wouldn’t hang out with me. so then she’s like me and ella (my other best friend) want to talk to you. i asked why ella was coming and she’s like she has some things she wants to say too. apparently i’m SOOO horrible to be around that my two greatest friends on this planet, had to talk about me behind my back and vent about how horrible i am.

now i don’t know what to do. i talked to my sister about it, and she thinks they are being petty and rude and that they’ll get over it, but this was a huge blow to my self esteem. if my best friends don’t like me, then who does? anyway thanks for reading this. please leave any advice you think might help the situation.

UPDATE: i’ve got good news and bad news. the good news is i got rid of the negative relationship i had with my best friend. but the bad news is i no longer have a group to go to dances with and i don’t know what i’m going to do about our senior trip we had planned, because apparently everyone in my “friend group” decided they didn’t like me under my “best friends” command. so that’s lovely. please send help