Sex hurts for me?

My boyfriend and I have been dating for 13 months now and we’ve had sex 3 times ? But we stopped for a while because I get anxious afterwards and it doesn’t feel good for me, in fact it actually hurts and I actually feel uncomfortable? I’m pretty sure I get wet and we use lube if needed but it doesn’t feel great ? I wanna try again but I want to feel the pleasure and idk how.. this is embarrassing lol