Not getting along....

I was fortunate enough to come into my step sons life when he was young. Loved him to death! So well behaved. So well mannered. I use to rave and brag about him to others....

Well it's been 10 years and him and I are oil and water. It breaks my heart because I miss the younger version of him. When we use to play in the yard, get excited over peanut butter sandwiches, and build forts. But over the years his mother came into a lot of wealth. He is a very fortunate and lucky kid. But this is getting to his head. He is getting spoiled and because of it we dont get along. He is rude, condescending, and overly sarcastic. All he talks about are the things he wants us to buy for him. He is soooooo use to his mom getting him whatever he wants that this is his "normal". I cant take it. It makes me dread being around him. And as a step parent I cannot have a say in how to raise him. This is getting so hard. And it's hard to admit when you and your step child dont get along because everyone assumes it's the evil step parent that is doing it all wrong. But as a step parent I am not allowed to have a say in how he is raised.

He even insults and makes fun of my husband and my husband doesn't do anything about it!! He just let's him! I hate having to keep my mouth shut and watch this go on.

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He’s a child in your home. Your home, your rules. There’s nothing wrong with setting some rules for when he’s at your house, like not letting him talk that way to his father. Easier said than done, I know, especially if his father isn’t backing you up. That’s the big thing here. While you can’t really “raise” him, you’re still an influencing adult in his life so you still have say about how things go down in your own home.

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zuly • Sep 6, 2018
Sorry I meant to say I agree. I have rules in my home and thankfully hubby backs me up ...if you arent nice you dont get to enjoy the finer things only what is required of me to provide. He wants some fancy meal but has a yucky attitude feed him a plain Sandwhich he wants tv but is disrespecting dad no tv, no phone, no nothing...if he claims he needs it incase his mom calls send a message to her telling her she can call the house because his phine has been taken away. You might not want to do these things cuz u might feel like it will make things worse but no matter if your mom or step mom kids will always hate you at one point ....we arent here to be besties with our kids we are here to educate and properly raise our kids

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zuly • Sep 6, 2018
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