Venting/advice

So this post is mostly to vent but any advice you have on how to deal with the situation is appreciated. So I like this guy a lot, he’s super nice, treats me great, and is super cute and respectful. But we are like polar opposites and not in the cute way, there are things that he likes/doesn’t like that are deal breaks for me, he said he won’t judge me for my kinks and he’ll try to be a “daddy/Care giver” for me since I’m a little, and he said even though he doesn’t like tattoos he likes me and as long as I don’t tattoo every square inch of my body he doesn’t mind (I want sleeves and my legs covered which he’s ok with and I want a few others here and there) so that’s all good. But the big issue is he wants to join the military and I despise the military, everyone in it, and everyone that supports it, (please don’t try to “educate” me on the subject I’ve heard it all before). On top of me not supporting it I don’t wanna risk losing him/him getting killed, or him being away long periods of time because I get really lonely, and on a smaller note he’ll have to cut his hair and long hair on a guy is my number 1 turn on other than facial hair (that’s not as important just a minus I guess). So idk what to do, I’m definitely not gonna let one or 2 things stop me from trying to be with a guy that treats me well and is willing to try things (sexually) for me (he’s pretty vanilla), but the military thing bothers me, plus I don’t wanna scare him off with my kinks and mental health issues so there’s that. Again I just wanted to vent.