Does your mom do this?

Question

Ok so I'm a new parent, currently 8-9 weeks and I'll be talking about things I wont do when it comes to my baby and things I prefer to do with the labor or generally anything to do with MY child. I was reading a post today and it got me thinking. Is it normal for your parents to try to over rule or change your mind about almost everything baby related, for example. I was explaining that I will not be put on my back when I'm in labor due to the complications it can cause and because it just isnt the natural position and I would prefer to walk around and when labor is coming be on all fours or in a squatting position, my mom argued tooth and nail about why I wouldnt do this or why by the end I'll just lay down etc. It happens almost daily and it's really starting to lead me to believe its just a lack of respect for my becoming a parent. Is this a normal thing?

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Your body, your birth, your baby, YOUR BUSINESS. “Thank you for the advice, but you have had your child(ren), this is my baby and I’ll be trying something different.”

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Once in a while my mom might offer a suggestion, but if I tell her why I don’t want to do it that way, she respects it and doesn’t bring it up again. 
Also may I suggest you add laying on your side to your list of birthing positions? I was not able to hold myself up, but laying on my side was way better than my back (jerk Dr made me lay on my back with my first baby).

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No my mom listens and gives her experience but doesn’t down me for my decisions just when she doesn’t agree she will tell me why but ultimately knows it’s up to me

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I mean itsyour body ultimately but at the same time she probably doesn’t want you to be upset if things dint go your way with your labor.

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My mom is a very controlling person. She constantly tries to control my life even though I’ve been married and living on my own since I was 19. She’s not so bad right now, but I know when the baby comes she will be.

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Annoying yes...but YOU are HER baby...she is trying to help you. You will understand when your baby gives birth.

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my mom does this with just about everything I say related to my birth plans and also how I plan to parent. it makes me so mad but I try to see where she’s coming from. either way, I’m going to do it how I want

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I would be annoyed with that but I would just present her the information and leave it at that. If it's too big of an issue just quit talking about it with her. My mom and I have a relationship where I can say "I got it." And she'll just drop it. 
Do be prepared to do whatever in labor. I was against laboring on my back but when I was in labor there was no other position I wanted to be in. I couldn't stand and didn't want to move at all. From the time I got to the hospital (while in labor) to when I had the baby was 4 hours all of which was on my back. I had no complications, no tearing, and baby was born in the sac 😊

Does your mom do this?

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