Am I in the wrong

My husband and I are at breaking point and discussing separation.

He wants our 13 MO to stay overnight at his parents, they live down the road so are less than a 2 month drive away. I’m still breastfeeding and we have swimming lessons on a Sunday morning. I’ve said I’m happy for her to stay a Friday night because sundays are hectic enough without having to worry about carting all her stuff back and forth between the two houses.

Will be a lot of stuff as they only have cot and high chair, they need black out blinds, monitor, room thermometer, bath toys, bath wash, shampoo, milk, bottle, dummy’s, pjs, sleeping bag, comforter, nappies, changing mat, bath time cream, nappy cream, bonjela, changing mat. Plus things I’ve probably forgotten. We are going out Saturday night, won’t be back late so I have said will be easier for his parents to come to ours and watch her, we have a dog so will also mean that she is being looked after.

He has come home and said they are having her Saturday night. I’m stressed because I know I’ll be the one getting her ready, the taxi is booked and I’ll be busy trying to get myself ready as well as my daughter so I’ll no doubt be late, he’ll then moan about the fact we are running late. He’ll be so drunk sat night that I’ll be the one running around like a headless chicken Sunday getting all our stuff back from his parents, picking her up and getting her ready for swimming. She has a nap straight after swimming so it’s going to be tough getting her stuff ready back at home for after swimming.

He’s made me feel like I’m being unreasonable. His parents are always round, they have been there for big things like buying her first shoes. I feel like they get a lot from us and he’s making me feel like I don’t give them anytime with their grandchild. I have said my parents will get upset and he has said they have my niece and nephew which I don’t really think should matter, my daughter is still their grandchild too.

I don’t know if I love him anymore and I don’t think he loves me. Maybe we should call it a day?