I was mom shamed by a male coworker

Hello! To give some back story I had my beautiful son back in May he’s now 4 months old and I have since returned to work. My sons birth was not what I had expected I mean I didn’t have a real birth plan besides going to the hospital and getting an epidural. Needless to say after hours of pushing he was stuck in my pelvis and I had to have a c section. To be honest I was terrified but all went well and I got a healthy baby out of it so it was worth it all. 😊 I went through the motions as most moms do after having a baby, I hated the way I looked and felt and i didn’t feel pretty with the mommy pouch some moms get after c sections. I’m much better now that it’s been a few months but a couple weeks ago it hit me hard when a male coworker of mine states I wasn’t a real mother because I didn’t push my son out but instead had him “surgically removed”.........

I labored for 3 days straight and with him getting stuck I didn’t really have much of a choice with the c section.

I was crushed and angered that a man who barely knew me had the nerve to say that to me. I already felt like a shitty mom because I barely remember my sons birth as it is, I was full of so many drugs so I wouldn’t feel anything as they pulled him from me. I was already battling my post baby demons and he said that to me. Why did he say that? I’m not sure. He then asked me why I would do such a thing like that to deliver him and I told him I didn’t really have a choice because of the situation. After that he was like “ok you’re a real mommy cause you didn’t have a choice I’ll let it slid this time” and all I could think was

“ who the fuck are you to say that to me?!” You are a MAN you will never do what I have done to be blessed with my son. If anything I’m more a mother than anything because I not only had to share my body with my little man but I had to be scarred in the process to have him. The fact that I put my child first before preserving my body for some man speaks volumes. I’m a strong mommy no matter what way my child was born. He’s happy and healthy and I still gave birth to him. I’m no less a mom because I didn’t push him out I’m more a mom because I cut myself open so he could be with us.

So crazy male coworker fuck you. You will never understand what it means to be a mother.