Sex Help Wanted

Hi girls,

So, my boyfriend and I, who I live with, well...we’ve been having problems.

This year I’ve wanted to break up with him 3 times and we end up fixing our problems, because he wants to.

Our problems are because he often doesn’t think of me in certain situations which makes me feel un appreciated as a girlfriend.

Many times, a lot of hurtful situations where I’ve been forgotten has made me feel un appreciated.

Other times he gets crazy jealous which makes me feel bad about myself for even living a normal day to day life having a male talk to me, but he does the same thing and it’s not a big deal and I over react apparently..

He basically accuses me of being a slut, without calling me a slut just because I had been with someone 4 years before I even met him!

These jealousy fits of his last a whole day sometimes.

It’s given me a nervous break down before... because I have to justify my past I moved on from.

I feel like I’ve given up everything that made me, me (e.g. studies, friends, gym, hobbies, career) for us and our relationship, which had made me depressed, but he’s given up nothing and makes me feel unsupportive when I bring up the issue.

Due to all this I’ve lost total sexual attraction.

I think in the last 4 months we’ve had sex 5 times.

And that’s me just wanting him to shut up.

He then makes me feel guilty about that when I turn him down.

He’s not a bad guy, he’s just stupid, which is why we fight, because he doesn’t understand.

But I feel like we’re in a bad rut.

The only reason I don’t leave is because I’m afraid of loneliness...and I’m scared I’m taking for granted a man who isn’t a cheater and I might meet a guy in the future who is a real scum bag out of karma.

Is there any advise out there?

He does try to bring the spark back, but I feel very turned off by him.

I won’t lie, everything he does, pisses me off lately and I knit pick at it...

How do you fix a relationship and bring back the spark long after it died?