Fiances video game addiction cost us over $1000😭

This might get long and im sorry. I will try to keep this as short as possible.

My fiance and i have been together for almost 6 years. We have 2 babies together, a 4 y/o and an 11 month old.

In january, he had a panic attack and suicidal thoughts, i took him to the er and he was admitted into a week long program at a behavioral health center. When he came home, he was then put into an intensive 6 hour therapy program for a couple months, which he graduated, and now has 1 hour therapy sessions every two weeks. He was diagnosed with general anxiety disorder, depression,and ptsd (due to childhood trauma). While in the intensive therapy, he took addiction classes to deal with his video game addiction. He had a lot happen to him as a kid and the only way that he could cope and escape was through video games. Over the 20 years since his habit started, it became an addiction. That is his escape. The problem is, he plays it every day. For hours at a time. He doesnt involve himself with the kids or help me with house work unless i ask (repeatedly) and he gets mad because im taking him away from his fix. In march, i noticed that we were missing a lot of money. I saw from our transaction history that a lot of purchases were made to microsoft. So i logged onto his order history and totaled, in 30 days time, $600 in purchases to Microsoft. Obviously we got into an argument. He tried to lie about it until i showed him his order history and totaled it up right in front of him. I wasnt shocked that he was trying to hide it because every time i bring up a microsoft purchase he tries to act like he doesnt know what im talking about. I ended up calling his therapist and telling him what happened and with my fiances okay, i attended one of his sessions so we could address this problem.

He improved for a very short time after that. He became more involved with the kids, helped me more. But slowly over time i started to notice that he was compensating not playing him game with eating and playing games on his phone. I bring it up as gently as possible, so i dont send him into an attack. Today, i went to check our bank account and noticed several pending transactions to microsoft, again, so i logged onto his order history and in less than 3 weeks he has spent $500 on additions to his football game. Obviously im livid. Our kids need clothes. I just spent a lot of money on uniforms for my son for school. We live with my mom to help her with her house since my dad died in june and we need to help her with some of her bills this month. He knows all of this. Im almost positive he blacks out when doing this stuff and doesnt realize how much he has spent.

Idk what to do. I love him. He is my best friend. But right now i cant even look at him. I want to be there for him. I want to support him. But im just done with him not thinking about things. Not thinking about his kids. Not thinking about anything other than his game. This is day in and day out. Our kids dont get the attention they deserve because daddy is always on his phone or game. I dont get the attention i deserve. We are finally ahead financially, after years of struggling. I will not allow him to blow through our savings.

Im losing my mind. Im a stay at home mom. (A mutual decision. Day care in my state is stupid expensive. I would be going to work just to pay for daycare. It wasnt worth it. So dont comment on me staying home) i take care of everything. All the cleaning, all the child care. The house upkeep, the dogs, all the responsibilities that come with caring for a house (my mom works dayshift and is gone all day so its just me and the kids) im losing my mind. I do everything i can to ease his stress. I dont ask for much. All i want is for him to WANT to fix himself. And i dont think that he does. I dont think he is telling his therapist the truth. He doesnt take his meds every day. He binge eats and refuses to acknowledge it. He refuses to acknowledge that there is a problem.

I have been incredibly supportive through this whole time, but i am tired.

I just dont know what to do. 😣