Sooo let's talk baby showers...

Baby Showers....Did you have one? Did you actually want one? And if you didn't have one, were you criticized for it? Are they considered "mandatory" for pregnant women? Because personally I don't want one, although my fiancé feels we should just do it and get it other with, I just don't feel I should have to take on all the personal planning with everything else I'm dealing with so I'd rather not do it at all but I don't wanna disappoint him, (considering its our first child) nor do I want to have to tell the family its not happening... 🤔😩