BOSSY/LAZY 12 YEAR OLD

Im sick and tired that my pre-teen thinks she can talk back to me. She literally wants me to do everything for her. If I dont do it she had the nerve to call me lazy. I had enough and I yelled simply because her demanding stuff was enough. I don't hit my kids because I was spanked for literally anything. I take all her stuff she holds dear. I am sick and tired of her thinking she can tell me what to do.