*UPDATED* Deleted messages and another girl

My husband and I have been married for close to 1 year.. We have of course had issues but we normally work through them with trust and everything. When we were newly engaged he had confessed to me that he was watching porn (I know some women don’t see that as a big deal at all but I do and that was something we both agreed wouldn’t be done) so, I told him I was really happy that he had come to me and told me instead of hiding it from me and asked me to block them so I did. Well, here within the the last maybe month? There are other issues that have gotten worse. About 2 months ago he had gotten a new job working with construction and flagging and everything. Well, with this job he works a lot. When I say a lot I mean a lot.. Sometimes he doesn’t get days off and sometimes his work days can range from 11-16 hour work days, Wakes up at 5 leaves at 6 doesn’t know when he will get home.. so that was an issue is him at work more than him being at home. Plus, when he gets home he’s really tired and normally just wants to get on Xbox and game then eat then go to bed so we talked about how I wanted time with him so we got me an Xbox to game with him well this where it gets to the actual issue now. At the middle of last month he asks me if he can have one of his work buddy’s come over with his gf and this other chick that works with them I told him that yeah it’s fine.. they get here we smoke and everything is fine but the other chick Rebecca brought her kid 🙄 barely watched him which left to me watch him while she decided to watch my husband instead.. well when they left I had just asked him about her and she started working there and how she was on a different team than him and is a young new single mom so I let it go thinking ok well she didn’t actually do anything. Well, about 2-3 weeks ago he had gotten from work around 3 pm and was going to have the whole weekend off so I was tired and he was gaming so I went to take a nap (fast forward 2 hours later) I get up and go back to where he was to find him still gaming and hopped on my Xbox and we played a few rounds of fortnite and I saw his phone light up when he went to the bathroom and it was a females name.. *Rebecca* - “damn I’m sorry” so I asked him about it and he said he heard she got sent out of town for a job and just wanted to know where she got sent because his team was possibly getting sent so I had gotten paranoid in my head but didn’t express it but later on when he was asleep I couldn’t sleep something in my gut was telling me that something with that just wasn’t right.. so I know I know I shouldn’t have went through his phone but I did. I went straight to their messages and everything was deleted but the conversation that was vvv

Her : damn I’m sorry

Him : it’s chill well I gotta go because I’m at home now

Her : * no response*

Alarms went off in my head instantly. So when he woke up I tried to act cool and just wanted to see what he would tell me so I asked him how she even had his number and he told me that since he is a lead everyone had to have his number and I then asked him “Well, if she wasn’t the only one who got sent out why did you have to ask her?” “I didn’t think about it” “well, ok how long have y’all been texting?” “Not long. Those messages were just about work” and I said “then why delete them?” He said something well we fought about it and here recently this month he comes home from work and we eat and he is in the shower as I’m showing him some music video and he goes “oh is that where those guys are driving those big cat machines?” And I said “yeah I think so why?” And he said “oh that’s funny Rebecca showed me that and the other guys that” and I closed my phone and said “how did that conversation pop up exactly?” And was all like “oh it was at work it was a behind the scenes of the music video” Well the next day he ends up saying he thinks something is wrong with her and how he thinks she is depressed and I told him “Look, I get she is your co worker but there has been things happening that has me uncomfortable and you told me you would only talk to her at work about work stuff. As a lead and as a boss you really shouldn’t be worrying about where her child’s father is at or what the other guys at the shop think or anything. Plus, I know you friended her on fb without telling me and now this? I’m sorry but I really don’t want to talk about her.” Well later on he goes on about one of his sexual fantasies ( when we first got together he had told me a story about a threesome he had wayyyyy before we ever even met and how he didn’t like it and he is normally really insecure and doesn’t want guys looking at me or talking to me or even being followers on my insta or fb) but he mentions he would be perfectly fine if I brought another girl into it so we can have a “toy” for the both of us. And I gave some very clear hints I didn’t like that idea and anyways he goes on about it off and on for the next couple of days until I finally told him I didn’t want to do that because I’m already really insecure and shy just with him and I wouldn’t be comfortable with more than just one sex partner and he said he was sorry well today he gets to work we have this app called find my friends on IPhone and we have it for each other so I looked at it because he hadn’t texted me letting me if he made it to the shop safe yet or not so I looked and he took a completely different route to work then he ever has? So I called and I hear him not driving, no cars, (we drive with the windows down due to no a/c in the car) and he normally texts me on the job when he can but this morning he hasn’t messaged once and I’m trying so hard not to be paranoid about it because I want to believe him I do but there is just too much suspicious stuff and I wouldn’t have this problem if the other times like, we got in a really big fight because he had so many freaking females on his fb and they were single and some of their pics were half naked or lingerie pics as their profile pics and some of them were even his exes (that were pregnant with his kid) and he still had pics of them together on there and it made me mad so I asked him to delete them and he finally did and he use to always check my phone and accuse me of cheating and stuff..

UPDATE: He finally responded to my texts today and we have talked about it about a little bit but he’s still playing dumb 🙄 he told me that he talks about everyone at work when I mentioned all the times he talked about her and all he had said was sorry I also started mentioning other matters of thing and he’s saying that he’s still interested and he hashtag

no feelings for her and how he does notices these things and how he never meant to hurt me but other than and telling me to stop it’s about the same.

He’s on his way home from work now so hopefully I’ll have a better update later. Also, thank you all for your advice I am definitely taking it all into consideration. 😊🤞🏼