Husband has lost the ability to “romance me”

We have 3 kids and usually are intimate 3-4 times a week. I love him to death and he shows me love everyday, he says it, he does little things each day to make me feel special. But sex has become so routine and raunchy. There’s no romance. He comes in, shuts the door, says “get naked” has 2-3 mins of foreplay and then we have rough vaginal sex one night and alternate anal sex the next. I love our raunch, but I’d like to be wooed again. Have him make out with me, tell me I’m sexy, play with my body a bit more. During the day he slaps my ass, grabs at my hoohaw and says “that’s daddy’s” lol which is cute and our thing, but I want a little more make out, a little more Pursuing. Not just an expectation and go time. Work for it like when we dated and you had to kiss me, undress me, go down on me, work for it! I love him to bits and I told him my wants but he just turns it into a joke. Now he passionately kissed me today and said “balance’ and then slapped my ass and laughed. Is this marriage? Where y’all just bone and move on? No more giggles and butterflies and romance?