Boyfriends kids don’t listen

I feel like a bad person for even saying this but I would love some advice or tips on how to deal or what I can do.

I’ve been with my boyfriend for almost a year now and he has twin girls age 4. Whenever I am over there it seems like they don’t listen very well and he’s quite the pushover getting them things anytime they ask. They always have a treat and he likes to bribe them. I know that being a single father to twins is super tough and I have an 8 year old myself.

I love these girls and I know they love me but it’s getting to the point where I’d like to step in and set some rules and boundaries so these kids don’t turn into brats thinking they can get their way all the time. They’re only 4 so maybe I’m just overreacting? But they get treated like babies still and whine ALOT. Man I know I’ll probably get some negative comments here but believe me when I say I love them and just want what’s best for them.

Sometimes I feel like I’m just their babysitter when they don’t listen to me and crawl all over me and poke at me. My boyfriend will have to step in sometimes and tell them to stop. It worries me cause I don’t wanna be annoyed by them forever. What should I do???