Cutting out toxic family

My father and I have always had a strenuous relationship. I’m at the point in my adult life where I’m old enough to know that it isn’t teen angst, I genuinely dislike him as a person. He wasn’t around for most of my childhood, but when he was he was always verbally abusive and occasionally physically abusive. He’s had countless girlfriends because he can’t maintain a relationship. He’s also had several engagements and one marriage. I have a million reasons why I no longer want this person in my life. The things he’s done to me I have trouble speaking about. I’m getting married soon and he’s supposed to be walking me down the aisle. I very much don’t want him there, but I’m not sure I can disinvite him. I don’t want to look back at my wedding day and remember this person I despise, but if I cut him out of my life now there’s a lot of people I do love who won’t come. I feel like I have to choose between two bad options. I don’t want him anywhere near me, but if there’s no him there’s no grandparents, aunts, uncles, etc. I did ask my mom to also walk me down the aisle so I would at least have one person there who I love. I’m crazy stressed out, I wish we had eloped but it’s too late now we’ve shelled out too much money 😞 it makes me not want to get married at all. I’m dreading the happiest day of my life 😢 has anyone else gone through this? 😭 I feel alone.