My mother has made three unprovoked accusations to CPS.

This third time, I pulled my daughter out of speech therapy for the summer and her accusation stuck as medical neglect. (I’m not asking whether she was right or wrong, it doesn’t matter).

When I confronted her about her reports to CPS and told her that I needed to remove my daughter from a toxic environment (removing my mother from my daughter’s life), she attempted an overdose.

She’s been out of the hospital for about a month and my dad asked me to write up a list of rules I expect them to follow when my daughter isn’t in our care but now he’s calling me a crazy bitch and saying that I’m micromanaging?!

Are my rules too harsh? Where can I make some slack??

Edit: my mother is NEVER alone with my daughter. The one-on-one time is relevant to “grandchild to grandparents”. My dad is always present when my mother has my daughter.

Edit #2: none of these rules were just pulled out of my butt. They’re all made for specific instances and I’m not acting “entitled” or “dramatic” at all. When I say “we appreciate invites but if we don’t get invited, we want to be notified”, it’s because all of the stuff I have listed (pumpkin patch, zoo, etc.) is over an hour and a half away from our hometown and I want to be aware of what TIME ZONE my daughter is in. Also, my parents insist on being my daughter’s provider financially and it is completely unnecessary which is why I would like them to leave her NEEDS up to us. Finally, for anyone saying that grandparents are SUPPOSED to spoil and coddle, it doesn’t have to undermine the parents. For example: we were out eating dinner and my daughter started throwing a tantrum. I told her she needed to sit and eat her meal that we paid for and my mother proceeded to pick her up and feed her food off of her own plate. (My daughter is THREE). Before you make nasty and unnecessary comments, make sure you have all of the information please.

***UPDATE****

My fiancé and I have officially decided to move our family out of state. We’re not even going to mention it to my parents until we have a set date for the move. We’re hoping that it will be official by the beginning of this next year. Thank you to everyone that was patient with me. This has been a lifelong battle with my parents, especially my mother. The emotional abuse goes back as far as I can remember... it wasn’t until this incident that I realized how unstable my father truly was and how biased he was to the situation. Thank you for the support and advice, I really appreciate it! ❤️