Dating After Divorce

I got a divorce a few months ago. My parents begged me to move back in with them so they can “help” with my girls & so I can focus on school. I did. I’m starting to regret this decision.

I stayed single, but then got depressed. My friends made me some dating profiles but I don’t get on them hardly. When I have, I’ve met a few guys that I’ve added on Snapchat but we don’t do anything, hardly talk. I don’t know what’s wrong with me, but I just can’t get out of this slump. A few guys have really seemed to like me and always try to hit me up for lunch or dinner but I always reject.

I did go on a date a few days ago. A guy in the army, seemed to have life together & wanted to settle down. We both had the same wishes. He drove 3 hours to take me to lunch, when he dropped me off he leaned over and kissed me. It was in the vehicle, he never stepped on my parents property, my parents knew we had a date so they did know about him. My parents were gone when he dropped me off.

Well the next morning my dad asked me why I’m into Mexicans (my daughter is Hispanic btw) and said I’m racist against white people because I’m trying to breed out my own race & that it’s against God to be interracial (idk what Bible he’s reading because mine doesn’t say shit like that 🙄) he then told me I’m a slut for kissing a guy and sleeping with him (I never slept with him, didn’t even come close) he told me I should respect myself more. Told me I was a bad mom for going on a date and that I should spend my life single without a man because my dream guy doesn’t exist and there’s no one out there for me. That it’s my fault my ex husband beat me because as a woman I didn’t know my place and that if I get with someone else he’ll probably be a child molester and hurt my kids and it will be all my fault and mine only.

Sidenote: my dads wife told me later that day that the girl across the street (is 30 but looks in her 20’s, is always flirting with my dad, hates my dads wife & I’m betting $100 my dad cheats on his wife due to issues I’ve witnessed, my dads wife hates her)...anyways my dads wife said that the girls across the street told my dad that the guy was on the porch making out with me, etc. like I said, he never stepped on the property & we never made out 🙄 I asked my dad about it and he said it was true but he knows she’s telling the truth & I’m lying. Mind you this woman is never sober, has DHS all the time because her kid gets in her alcohol, gets in her weed and he’s 4! She’s got a new man over all the time including my own married father.

Is my dad right? Should I just stay single? Or should I focus on what I feel is best for myself. I feel ready to date but I am being picky about it. I ghosted that guy due to my fathers insensitive words. I don’t want anyone seeing my family life. So it’s better to end it before it starts. Also; i talked to this guy for a month before we actually went on a date, he has a son and we have mutual friends. So it wasn’t a complete stranger.

Also: I am looking into low income housing, but I have no furniture, not even a bed. My kids do but I don’t. I just got a job this week and start Tuesday, it’s a nursing job so that’s good. I plan to be out of my fathers house by the end of November. He’s not a good person to be around. He taught my 2 year old to say the n-word and then screamed at me for disciplining her. Like I said my daughter is Mexican, I am not racist nor will I raise my children to be.

And no I’m not ready for a serious relationship, im not looking to get married in the next 6 months but I am ready to start over and do things the right way with the right one. I want to take my time and not rush things. I’m ready to start seeing other people but not in a moving in with each other, starting a family next month, get married 3 months from now type of way.