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I just had my third child. Third boy. With same father for all. Only our first child is autistic. My middle child is not. Our newest one, it is too soon. I have never ever heard a dr or somebody tell somebody to not have anymore children because they could too be autistic. Autism is no walk in the park but i would have taken that offensively just because my oldest is autisitc. I dare somebody to say dont have anymore kids because of this reason. So freaking what if another child ends up being autistic.
2nd TTC, 1st Autistic
Hello ladies!
I am newly married for the first time at 40. I have a 19 year old transgender son that I have raised as a single mother that is high functioning autistic. I could tell you the story around that, but that would be extremely long.
I am excited to have finally found someone that accepts my son and wants to be in the ever challenging world of autism.
In talks with his psychologist, she recommended that I never have any more children because my one and only is diagnosed as such.
I can’t tell you how much that pissed me off. #1. There is no true definitive and documented cause of the disorder, and #2. I would be having a child with a different person (if that matters).
Nevertheless, beyond the obstacles and frustrations I have experienced in 19 years with schools, education, being 40, etc, I would like nothing more than to have a child child my new husband (dated for 9 years). And btw, my kid is freakin’ awesome!
Some people say I’m crazy to want to do this all over again Autistic or not, and some are completely supportive.
I want a family. I’ve never been afforded that opportunity in my life or in my childhood as my parents were married several times.
What do you think? Opinions and comments are completely supported.
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I’m the oldest of 5 children. All of us were with the same 2 parents. I am the only one who turned out to be autistic. And even if I wasn’t the only one, I think that way of thinking “don’t have more kids there’s a chance one could have autism” is really ableist and makes those of us who have autism feel like people would rather we never been born than exist with a disability.
I suspect my daughter is also high functioning autism (she's 11) and I am 38 weeks pregnant. Babe is also from my second marriage. Hubby has already mentioned situations/scenarios if our little one is diagnosed, not a big deal. I didn't know about autism being a possibility for my daughter until last October. Definitely didn't stop us from wanting a little one.
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She had problems in her previous school. She started meeting with a school counselor the last couple of years and she had lots og support from teachers. The school called someone from health services and that's who we had the meeting with.I haven't been able to get her in to see anyone else yet
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Has any school systems acknowledged if your 11 yr old is showing symptoms? My school in Denver, CO brought up noticeable test scores showing low and/or my kid being “slow” which I didn’t accept as a label, but still alerted me to start researching
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