Normalization of porn?

Hi ladies,

I am currently in my 2nd relationship. I that I have learnt a lot from this relationship from knowing my self-worth to communication more effectively and working on issues together rather than a 1v1 situation.

I am also someone who has a lot of work cut out in regards to self-love and being self-conscious & body conscious. My boyfriend has been wonderful in helping me on my body positive journey since we have met (over a year ago).

However, I don't know how to feel towards porn. I want him to be honest with me and tell me if he does watch, yet when he tells me I feel disheartened and somewhat put off. I find myself saying it's normal and it's probably for his "physical needs at the time"- since we are in a long distance relationship. I can't help but still have "silly remarks" if he has fantasies of these woman/other women and what if he compares me to them or stops wanting me if he finds porn more interesting in general etc.

I know I could just ask him or work on trying to communicate how i feel. But I would never never want him to feel judged or start lying to me in some sort of protective mechanism.

So my question is why is porn normalised and why can it be okay if you're in a relationship? What are your inputs or similar experiences?