Keep it spicy 🌶 or too much risk?

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My husband and I are celebrating 10 years together this month and we are pregnant with our first baby! We are so excited and happy! Over the years I’ve kept things fresh by role playing, lingerie, porn, and trying to get good at oral lol. Believe it or not but my husband is the only person I’ve gone down on! Anyway, just a few weeks ago during a night he was very tipsy he mentioned allowing his best friend of 20 years in the bedroom with us . I’ve personally been friends with his bestie for the 10 years we have been together and he spends the night often when he comes over to drink with my husband. He’s a single guy, decent looking. Well my dilemma is I 100% am a religious person and I do not believe in things like this, BUT I strongly STRONGLY Believe that every marriage is different and if something works for your marriage then you should do it as long as it keeps both husband and wife happy. I told him I was hesitant about opening the can of worms and what it might lead to. But being pregnant has made me feel so not sexy , and we are down to sex only once a week now if that . My husband says he feels I’m really good in bed and wants to show me off, he even mentioned his friend could just watch us if that’s what I was comfortable with. He also mentioned in pregnant already so there’s no risk of getting pregnant by someone else lmao . I highly value my marriage and don’t want to do anything to ruin it but I’m open to the idea of it for some odd reason. After our convo my husband and I had really good sex and I was so wet just fro the conversation of bringing someone else in 😳 I couldn’t believe it myself . I’m worried I will feel like it’s wrong while I’m cooking my sweet baby to let someone else see me naked or worse insert himself inside me. This convo was 3 weeks ago with my husband and nothing came of it because I said I wasn’t sure yet,  but I find myself imagining it actually happening very often and thinking about it. I’ve obviously not been with anyone else in 10 years and I’m actually not opposed to the idea but I thought this would come up later in life when Our kids were grown and we are in our 50s not now in our 30s lol but I guess that’s what happens when you wait so long to have kids. What would you do? I honestly dont think I could ever go through with it especially his best friend who we see all the time . Just curious what other people thoughts are

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I think it's a little strange he wants his best friend to be the one. I thought people who had threesome looked online or met someone at a bar. I can't imagine having sex with someone that close to my husband would be some weird energy after that 😂 but you are all adults and if you don't think it will upset you afterwards then it's your decision to what you'd like to do

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If You Truly Love Each Other Please Dont. He Shouldn’t Want Another Man To Know You In That Way Especially Since You’re His Wife And Carrying His Child. I Just Wouldn’t/Couldn’t

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If you’re both 100% sure and on board, then go for it. If you’re still kinda on the fence maybe wait until after your baby is born to revisit the idea. It’s not something to be entered into lightly. If you do eventually decide to go through with it, set some ground rules and make sure everyone is on the same page, including the friend, both during the encounter and after.

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Look it up. You actually can get pregnant again. It’s ironic but look it up!

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I feel like it's really really weird that he would want his best friend from so long to take part in it. I also feel like that could ruin your marriage, but for some people it works. I personally wouldn't risk my relationship by bringing someone else into the bedroom. There are so many things that could go wrong.

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Why would you something like that, specially now that you are pregnant? And why would you husband say that you are great in bed and wants to show you off like your a trophy? Wow I thought I’ve seen it all but i guess no! Your relationship will definitely not be the same, and of course the best friend might not be the best friend anymore, besides that, you are growing a human inside, you don’t who’s  the best friend sleeping with or if he can have something that can harm the baby! There’s a lot consequences to the decisions that you are about to make! And honestly if my husband will say something like, he wouldn’t be my partner anymore! I hope you make the right decision, there’s many many ways to spice up sex in a relationship, and yes our bodies change a lot with pregnancy but keep in mind you are a beautiful woman growing a human being inside that should be more than enough for your husband!

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My religion is the most important thing to me I could never because of that. Yes all is forgiven when you repent I would feel so gross afterwards because it’s a sin. And also you risk diseases while pregnant.(if this comes across as judgmental it’s not but I feel it might seem like it is)?

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I think there’s no harm in trying it, he trusts this guy, just used a condominium or get him tested and go for it if you want it but if you think you’ll. Regret it religiously don’t do it.

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I wouldn’t have sex with someone else because the risk of contracting an STD during pregnancy wouldn’t be worth it at all to me. I mean it’s not something I personally would ever do with my husband, but I get it. They don’t test for HPV in men and even though that doesn’t have much risk when it comes to pregnancy (unless it progresses really fast and you need a procedure called a LEEP) it’s still risky. Just my opinion when it comes to actual penetration. Maybe the friend could use a toy or something instead.

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Absolutely not!!! That would be so uncomfortable for me just because as a wife my husband should be the only one I’m seeing not his best friend!!! And I’m shocked he’s pushing it so much to be having a 3 sum with his best friend and wife.. that’s not how you spice up a marriage especially when you have a baby on the way.

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