How can I stop feeling guilty?!

Question

I’m almost 20 weeks pregnant with our second baby. I cNt stop feeling guilty that our son will no longer get all of our attention and will feel neglected when new baby is here. I feel so bad that I feel physically sick sometimes. Has anyone else felt like this?

Answer

Thanks ladies! I’m relieved to know I’m not alone, and that  it’s quite normal. I’m planning on getting him a doll and we can change nappies and feed them and wind them together and I’m going to buy books. I’m planning on getting him to help with as much a possible so he doesn’t feel less loved or left out.

Answer

Does your son not get along with other kids/babies? 
My daughter loves other babies so that had put my mind at ease that she will ultimately be happy to have a sibling. 
My sister in law had a son that hates other babies but still loves his brother too. 
Try not to feel bad, ultimately kids I think really enjoy the company of a sibling.

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I think everyone feels this way. The day I had my second I bawled my eyes out and kept apologizing to my son. I could not stop crying. He had never even spent a night away from me (he slept with me since day 1)  and our first night apart was when I had my second. As much as you have to give up a lot of your time for the new baby, the first child does just fine adjusting. It will be a good kind of change as long as you include your first as much as possible. Just know that how you feel is 100% normal. I also didn’t think I could love another child as much as I love my first. Watching your kids bond will literally make you cry and feel so much love because it’s just so beautiful 💖

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Omg that’s exactly how I felt when I had my 2nd born I have a 9 year old and a 6 year old and I’m pregnant with my 3rd boy I felt so guilty having my 2nd born feeling like he would feel less loved and I literally cried like a baby but he ended up being soooo happy to be a big brother he cherished his brother so much and he never felt less love because I tried my best to give them both equal attention now at 9 and 6 they are best friends they argue and fight sometimes like all siblings do but they love each other so much you and your child will be fine

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Yes I have a 5yr old and I’m pregnant and it’s so hard to think that my son will feel less. I make sure to spend as much time with him and talk about how he feels about his new sibling. I get him library books about being a big brother and he loves them he understands he’s been asking for a sibling for 2uears now.

How can I stop feeling guilty?!

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