Major disconnect

I feel so disconnected from my husband. He’s distanced himself and honestly I’m not sure how to get him back. I’m constantly thinking of ways to be better for him. Maybe he’ll love me more if I do this or maybe he’ll respect me more if I do that. I feel like I have to be a perfect person in order for him to love me. Then part of me wants to ignore him and be a bitch in hopes of getting his attention. Cut him off like he’s cut me off I guess. Ugh 💔