I think my boyfriend wants a submissive wife 😕

And that’s just not me. I put his needs above mine. I do what he needs before he even thinks to ask. But I’m “opinionated” and naturally curios. My favorite question is “why?” And I guess that’s just not what he wants. He used to love that I challenged him. Said I truly brought him out of an intellectual sunken place. But lately he always talks about how he loves how his Grandma submitted to his grandfather and how they had such a perfect relationship. What does it even mean to be submissive? Why can’t I just be myself? Why is what I’m doing not enough? R