I hate this part. I need advise 😫

So, if you’ve seen my posts on here, this is my 4th pregnancy. And honestly I HATE this part. Not just the discomfort but the “not knowing”. If certain pains are normal, do you count that as a contraction or not, has cramps or actually having cramps? It’s honestly different with each pregnancy, the aches and pains. I’m sitting here with my fiancé at a business meeting, we had to make a 2 hour drive... the entire drive I was having contractions, I’m considering them contractions because my stomach gets rock hard, they hurt and followed by cramps. So we get to where our meeting is and I use the bathroom, get some water and figure it’ll die down but nope. I still have cramps. And they are extremely uncomfortable. Nothing is easing them. Baby is still moving and grooving unless I have a “contraction”. Idk... if you ladies where in my situation, what would you do? I feel like the pains don’t really let up or take a break. The contractions obviously come and go. I just don’t know what to do... 😫😫